Monday, December 14, 2009

An appeal

At the old mooban, we used to leave for the park at exactly 5pm. Gooly would start pestering me to bring him there around noon. "Is it time yet?" x 100 times in a day. Things have not changed one bit. He is still very cheong hei. It annoys me so and to be frank, the annoyance has escalated in recent months.

So how?

I take a deep breath and say, "Damn! This boy is persistent!"

Parts of his daily speech include, "Follow me." "No, you are wrong." "You must do like this, ok, Mom? Ok, Mom? Ok, Mom? Ok, Mom?"

So how?

I slap my forehead and say, "Oh man! This boy is persistent AND bossy!"

Because of his persistent nature, I do get palpably upset with him. And the following has happened before:

Him: I want a chocolate.
Me: No.
Him: *pesters and annoys the bollocks out of me*
Me: Ok, fine. Go have one.
Him: *starts wailing* NOOOOO! I don't want!
Me: *What the heckaroo?*

And yesterday while about to board the BTS to town, he was suddenly teary. So I asked sympathetically if he was tired and if he would like to go home instead. Maybe I didn't put any make up on yesterday, so the scary face actually made my suggestion sounded more like a threat (Cry some more, you want to go home, is it?) in which triggered an impressive bawl of a lifetime from him.

Eventually we did climb on the train, with him holding his papah's hand for dear life. After awhile, he came and touched our peace-maker necklace and said, "I love you, Mom."

Look, he is usually loving. And cute. And smart.

But.....there are times when the tears become too much for me. The outbursts.. the stubbornness.. the strong will of a mule to do things his way.. Gawd!

Sometimes I wonder if he could be a little bit more flexible. Like, if i said, "Come on, let's go!" and he would follow suit. And not, "5 more minutes!" for a bargain.

BUT! The train ride must have jogged my brain to the right corner. I suddenly had a light bulb moment. Except that the light bulb was in a bicycle image. And the wheels were turning backwards.

Don't understand?

Well, I just thought that I need to back pedal fast. Some of the things that I said or did must be wrong, as in my (cruel) retorts may have resulted his negative response. Maybe I am indeed a dictator. Action reaction kinda philosophy, don't you think?

No, I am not blaming myself. I'm just taking responsibility as a mother whose important role is to change the negatives into positives:

* Bossiness to leadership qualities.
* Persistence to the ability to withstand hardship in pursuit of a goal.
* Etc.

The list is too boringly long so I won't continue. (Etc. makes it sound like I have more points but in actual fact, I only have two :P)

Sometimes we as parents wonder about our kids, "Why you so like that? Why are you so difficult?" Oh boy.. do we even think, why are WE like that? Why are WE so difficult? Cos sometimes, we are the problem, not them.

Like it or not, parenting is that heavy a responsibility. Sure, there are genes to be considered, but WE ARE NOT OFF THE HOOK just yet. How they turn out to be, really depends on their surroundings and etc. (Etc. makes it sound like I know more than I really do. Teehee..)

Future Gooly, sorry if I had tried to dampen your spirits or worse, making you into what you are not.

FYI, I am back-pedaling fast. I will do something about my mothering skill.. so that your little outbursts will not turn into a full-scale rebellion. *gulp*

I am trying. Give me one more chance. Erase what I said or did which are not right. Like you, I am still learning. Just that I am learning to be a mom, and you, a man.


smallkucing said...

Just wondering what is "Mooban"?

goolypop said...

smallcat, aiyor.. u always keluar tajuk one. Mooban is like...ermm..housing area.

For cows one. Moooooo~


smallkucing said...

Rasa sayang eh~
Rasa Sayang sayang eh~
Hey! lihat nona jauh~
Rasa Sayang Sayang eh!~

Buah Cempedak di luar pagar~
Ambil Galah tolong jolokkan~
Saya budak baru belajar~
Kalau salah tolong tunjukkan~


goolypop said...

Masa wayang eh
Masa wayang eh
Hey, lihat hansem dekat
Masa wayang eh

Buah cheri di dalam seluar
Ambik chopstick tolong kepitkan
Cikgu tarak, sudah keluar
Macam pi memancing ikan.

(i also can berpantun wei!)

smallkucing said...

Oi! jangan salah kapit oh...manyak sakit oh...kakakaka... sorry a bit nutcase already

goolypop said...

smallcat, aiyor..donch worry. Nobody normal one here..except me. :D

*eating cheri from seluar* Hmm..sedap.

smallkucing said...

wakakaka...oi...the biji dun simply buang everywhere ya...

goolypop said...

smallkucing, orh! *keep bijik back in underwear*

Eh, forgot tell you. Mooban is a thai word. Dun go look at Oxford Kamus for that word hoh? And say I loethim you. :P

smallkucing said...

aiya..em kaui tuck i googla tarak this word "MooBan Talay Resort" blah blah blah..

tuti said...

ya lor, 7 early 8 early made me google mooban too. cheh.
(leave 3-8 comment first)

now serious comment.
the little ones absorb everything we do, till they have a mind of their own and then they become auto mode.

actually they already have a mind of their own. don't be too hard on yourself. we can't all be saints. even saints got temper lah.

Wong Pakfu Sinkar said...


wantu baker mai shu
trifor shart der dor
faisik pig up stik
sewen egg lai dem strait
lai ten a big fark hand..

goolypop said...

smallcat, now that you know, sila bayar poewufai to that ah char guard, aka sinkar (he got many other pseudonyms one but if you see one siao comment, it's him lah!)

goolypop said...

tuti, how you google? Must start with Moo and then Ban..Ban cows, you know?

Now serious also, they say ah, it's easier to tame a spirited child then to breathe life to a docile one.

They say one ah...not me.

goolypop said...

Wong Pak,

Satu teh tarik
Dua roti chanai
Tiga Kuah Kari
Empat Ringgit hamparang.

(dun force me to use my talent ok?)

tuti said...

so next time prof sinkar will teach his kid nursery rhyme his style hor?
really can't wait for the day he actually have a kid of his own, bwahahaha. ;)

and correction to smallcat. THE only normal one here is moi. :P

smallkucing said...

Then the whole world is a mad mad place lor. No joke, no laugh..kekeke...asalkan takde yang offended :p

The little ones nowadays are very "advance". kecil kecil already know how to copy. Thus have to be careful how we act or talk in front of them.

goolypop said...

tuti, eh eh.. u r the one in straightjacket all the time leh.

Actually,if sinkar has a dotter, I dun mind Gooly kawin her lah. If it's a son leh.... you take lah! Hehehe.

goolypop said...

smallkucing, no wor, papah always dig nose in public, gooly also nvr follow. Not that I am complaining lah. :D

smallkucing said...

Say louder and will gooly dig nose in public tomorrow 7 early 8 early in the morning :p


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