Monday, June 9, 2008

Mothers and other mothers

Mothers need two kinds of mother friends:
a) mrs know it all
b) mrs i really dont care

We ask questions with friends type (A). Questions like how to potty train and then later, how to potty train the mouth :P. (A) would have all the answers at the back of her hand. Occasionally she will tell you that she has forgotten when the third molar would normally appear, but she would be glad to go home and check on the progress book, and let you know in a jiffy. And she will call you to let you know that her baby's molar was insight at 12 months and 24 days. And she will have a story to tell on how they noticed the darn tooth.In other words, type (A) is just like your mother, whose advice is a bit outdated and thus not sought by you anymore. But (A) is just as enthusiastic, giving out information as though she is the information counter. Very helpful but a bit stressful to hang around with. "He is still drinking from his bottle? You should start training him with the cup already." Woah... too much advice here. Shoo shoo..

With (B).. its a whole different story. She is the one teaching you to inhale and exhale. Relax, your kid will not grow up to be an obese just because he chowed down the packet of potato chips, she tells you. You even eye-witnessed her kids drinking coke early in the morning, with ice. And you see the kids are as normal as can be. So she lets you believe that motherhood isn't that hard, and that you are doing ok, and your kid is gonna turn out alright.

Now what mothers don't need:
a. mothers who insist their own kids are the cutest, smartest, tallest and other -est
b. mothers who give uncalled for advice i.e shouldn't you bring him to the psychiatrist?
c. mothers (yours and in laws)who force you be a full time mum/part-time mum/career mum against YOUR OWN WILL
d. mothers who tell you what NOT to do ie. dont cuss infront of your kids, don't smoke infront of the kids, etc. (it's not their business to mind the matter)

The best kind of mother friend any mothers will be glad to have will have these characteristics; sense of humour,understanding, wise, listener, not judgemental,a story exchanger and not a story competitor. Anyone out there who has these qualities? Please contact me :D

5 comments:

Anonymous said...

When you come across any, let me know wor. I want one too..

tasy said...

Definitely agree with you.

Popped over from 5xmom. You indeed write well and hilarious at that too. I was lurking at both your blogs and was giggling to no end.

Anonymous said...

Everyone else's Mom is better than mine, well back then. Now I know better

goolypop said...

TBH- Wish me luck, I'll share my 'fortune', k?
Gargies - thanks
Gerald - this is the gud blog. The other 'colourful' one is a total different perspective of my motherhood experience. There u find a crazy mum. So i bet your mum was not as bad.. :D

tasy said...

Ahh.. this is actually the first komen. what I meant to say last year was that...

(you still remember what you wrote anot?)

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